Flirting Essentials

Proximity

Get close, across the room is fun, but she may be looking at someone else. Be sure, and get close.

Letting someone into your personal space indicates some interest. Get close and back off a bit, get in close again. While you don’t want to give the impression you’re a boxer, you mostly want to avoid the look of a needy stalker.

Of course, noisy bars provide the best cover for getting close, what was that you said? The music’s so darned loud!!!

Eye Contact

Many animals stare down their prey, so glance around while you converse (but don’t look like you checking out other potential targets) — but when you deliver your key offer, have total eye lock.

Vocal Inflection

Try a slow, low and intimate tone for your most seductive suggestions, varied with your normal voice for normal conversation or set up lines.

Speaking slightly higher than your normal register could be interpreted as nervousness or arousal, so practice with a variety of tonal ranges. It’s okay to be nervous, who wouldn’t be in the same situation?

It gets back to the vulnerability thang being very attractive. After all, aren’t you so brave for making the first move that your intended was too nervous to do?

Hint, imply, tease, titillate, intimate, flirting is verbal foreplay, with the emphasis on PLAY.

Keep it light, witty and coming.

Be Sincere

The woman you are flirting with has feelings, dreams and goals, a job, friends and family, and an existence prior to and after you, and her own flirting agenda. Respect that always.

Always leave room for a mutually graceful exit.