Age 42 and tired of dead end relationships with men. Decided 6 months ago to
become a Lesbian Now just trying to find a nice woman for my first experience. How do I flirt?
The first issue I see isn’t how to flirt.
No one is going to respond to any sort of flirting, no matter how seductive, funny or clever, if they think that they are the fall back choice. Or, as I prefer in horse track parlance – an “also ran”.
Women are lesbians because they identify emotionally and sexually with
women. It’s not an anti-man choice, it’s a pro-woman choice.
1. Are you actually sexually attracted to women and just never acted on it?
2. Are you just not going for the kind of guy who can give you what you want,
and giving up and going for women?
A lot of people make the mistake of deciding all the details of their future
relationship and then try to find someone to plug into that.
The person you date, regardless of gender, is going to have their own
relationship ideas. You can’t just make up a relationship by yourself and
expect someone else to just play along.
If you decide that you want to be with a woman because you like women and
not because you’re tired / bored / sick of men, then I suggest avoiding the
bars and finding a lesbian community centre, an organization or club, a local
queer newspaper or sports team and join it.
Make sure it’s a hobby or club of an interest you actually like.