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Naked Lust to Nake Love is the path to true love


Lesbian Spectrum Taxonomy

by Guest Writer:  Sunny Armstrong
a Lesbian Spectrum Taxonomy
Where do you fall?

1. So Straight Looking You Can’t Tell
2. Lipstick Lesbian
3. Femme
4. Power Femme
5. Wears Comfortable Shoes
6. Plain Jane
7. Sporty-Femme
8. LPGA Dyke
9. Gender Queer
10. Androgynous/Kiki
11. Queer
12. Chapstick Dyke
13. Sporty
14. Tomboy
15. Dyke-y
16. Baby Dyke
17. Tomboi
18. Soft Butch
19. Boi
20. Butch
21. Hard Butch/Stud
22. Bulldyke
23. Bulldagger
24. Stone Butch
25. FTM
26. Transman


Granola/Earth Mother

Diesel Dyke

7 Reasons I love Femmes by ButchWonders

Guest Blogger: Butchwonders


After I posted my index of blog topics for the past year, a Twitter follower mentioned that “femmes” aren’t in the index.  I’d considered including femmes as a separate topic, but decided this would be redundant, since so much of my writing on relationship and dating pertains to femmes and butch-femme relationships.  (I list butch-butch relationships separately, though, since they tend to be much more of an exception than a rule.)

Still, that tweet got me thinking more specifically about the reasons I love femmes, even though I rarely date them myself.  Here are a few big ones:

  1. Femmes take straight people out of their comfort zones, showing them that not everyone in the queer community “looks” gay.  When an attractive femme mentions her girlfriend, she can take people by surprise in a way that someone who “reads” gay (e.g., yours truly) cannot (well, unless I mention that I have an ex-husband).
  2. Femmes appreciate butch attractiveness.  This makes me feel awesome, especially since the butch aesthetic is not always appreciated in the wider world.  Whether it’s a femme friend who compliments my tie or a femme stranger who smiles at me in the bookstore, it’s a wonderful feeling to know that someone “gets” (and likes) your look.
  3. Femmes often smell nice.  It is a scientifically proven fact that femmes, on average, smell better than butches.  I like it when people smell nice.
  4. Femmes help butches dress better.  Yes, there are some dapper fashion mavens among us, but not all butches have a talent for fashion (as a single visit to any lesbian bar quickly makes clear).  It’s a boon to our community that femmes provide great fashion advice to their butch friends and lovers.
  5. Femmes remind us that embracing a female masculinity is not the same thing as replicating a heterosexual dynamic or acting out the mainstream gender binary.  Typical hetero memes are so plentiful that sometimes butches start acting out the “dude” stereotype even if they don’t mean to–and when we do, femmes call bullshit.
  6. Femmes help “break the ice” for lesbian representation in mainstream media.  While it can be super frustrating to see only feminine lesbians represented, I have to wonder if lesbians would be on the big screen at all if it wasn’t for femmes.
  7. Femmes add to the gorgeous diversity of the queer community, endlessly reminding us that it’s not necessary for gay women to look or act or dress or speak a certain way.  They deal with “invisibility” as queers, and have to come out over and over again to be recognized for who they are.  That takes a lot of guts.

Ivan taught the L Word Actresses how to act lesbian

Conversations with Queers

because that is how widely and complexly we roll

Lesbian labels

Coming out as non-heterosexual is not about conforming to other stereotypes.

You don’t have to change your wardrobe or personality.

Give yourself permission to be who you already are

and celebrate your new-found honesty with yourself

and whenever and wherever safe – with others

because telling people you are non-heterosexual is an important social shift towards


people who know that they know someone not straight, increases the social acceptance and norming of diversity.

Nina: Girl Reporter

This former journalist wrote for news papers.

I did news and arts photography, wrote news, features, community spots and Arts&Entertainment and was the News Editor of Angles for over a year.

I later wrote for Xtra! West when it replaced Angles as the gay paper in Vancouver BC.

The Icelandic Newspaper ran my photographs of the then President of Iceland’s visit to Vancouver.

And Nina’s Nonsense ran in my high school paper – this was my first experience with censorship.


An additional note – I had a lot of fun making those two snow dykes. I called them:


Lilla and Frosta Snow

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