I’m a wife and mother, and really attracted to the single mother of one of my son’s
friends. How do I approach her to see if she feels the same?
The first person you need to talk to is your current partner.
If you want to go outside of the relationship and explore your attraction to
another person, you have to give them the choice:
1. To stand by you and support your exploration
2. To make your relationship non-monogamous
3. To bail out.
Given that you’re in a het relationship and you have a kid, you may also want
to check out your state or province’s recent court rulings on custody and
access. Many US States will automatically give children to the heterosexual parent – even if that person is not the best parent – over the homosexual parent.
If THAT hasn’t cooled your ardour, I suggest that you engage her in a normal
conversation, and then introduce, very very neutrally, a news item about a
gay person or the gay community that was in the news recently. (There’s
One you gage her reaction to a gay topic, you can slowly proceed, in fact, wait for another conversation to reveal your attraction feelings.
Proceed slowly and give her and yourself a graceful out.
Best case, you connect, worse case…… take a leaf from the boy scouts and
just be prepared.