Posts tagged ‘flirting’
Whenever there are media articles and polls about what celebs are hot or not – it’s usually about what straight men and woman like. But over the last 10 or so years, gay men are often included in the articles but lesbians are not.
So it begs the question – do we fantasize or do we just not answer poll questions?
Desire and fantasies are a complex things – to many, it’s an impossible standard of beauty that is not achievable, even for beautiful women – and thus creating a cycle of low self esteem and dooming them or us into a cycle of one failed relationship after another.
Or impossible standards that no one – no matter how attractive can meet – and so risking settling for someone and again creating a cycle of failed relationships and self blame.
The critical thing is to have good self esteem of your own that is not dependent on anything or anyone external to yourself.
Photo and this image created by Nina aka Lezflirt
I’m a lesbian and have been for a number of years.
I’ve never had to guess whether a women I eventually became involved with was
attracted to me. It was right there. However now, there is one particular woman that
I’m unsure of. I think she may be flirting with me, but I’m not confident in that
She is definitely a lesbian. Our relationship is very casual. We’ve had to talk a
number of times briefly on the phone. When we do, her voice is soft, low, calm and endearing. I’m usually very straight (direct) or semibabbling.
When I see her she is all smiles and very friendly. I’m still very straight (all
business). She’s never asked me out. She has involved me in one of her organization’s events, (which is how she got my number). Before that, she was someone I saw 2X in my neighborhood.
Is she flirting or being friendly? What’s the line/difference? If I feel she is, does that mean she is?
Well, from what you’ve told me, it doesn’t sound like she’s flirting.
Lots of people talk in a calm, low voices -it depends on the vocal inflection, is
it intimate, does she sound like she’s dropping hints, using double meanings?
Why not try obviously flirting with her first? Make a no/low pressure sexual
joke, see how she responds.
She may just be mellow, friendly person.
But how you are responding to her isn’t really a gauge of whether or not the
other person is. It’s easy to mistake someone actually flirting for just
friendliness and vice versa.
Communication is the key to determine what the other person’s intentions